Of Leashes, and Public Surrender
My mentor M. Cybele has a system of Leashes — short, medium, long — for maintaining communication about what depth of surrender is required of a subject at any given time.  This makes for more fluid public play, but it does require some grace to slide from one “Leashed State” to another.  Of course they are conceptual.  I won’t take you on a leash or lead to Hermes unless we bought it there.